I get so swamped in these arguments that I'm never quite sure what I'm responding to...

Larry, I think this relates somehow to your card...

In CA I had a friend of many, many years who was very overweight (like me) and who never, ever has dated nor is she dating now. At the time Rick and I began getting serious she started going to Jenny Craig and lost all her extra weight.

The last time I saw her was in February and I left CA in May. She said to me, "All my friends who get married never keep in touch with me and I just have to tell you that it makes me angry." From there on she treated me like I had already done what she feared and therefore the prophecy has come true. In the meantime, I was hesitant to be around her because she was losing weight. We were both doing something the other wanted to do while we were both getting something we wanted.

My question is: Can a happy person be friends with an unhappy person?

Our time together before was spent feeling sorry for ourselves, I am not in that mode anymore. I have not communicated with her since leaving CA.